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Mention a Nigerian winner (and the awarded work) of the 2017 Le Grand Prix de l’héroïne Madame Figaro award.

Also state 5 suggestions as contained in the awarded work.

What you give is what you get.

A. the Nugeria n winner of the award is Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

B. the title of her work that won the award is “Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions”

C. The five of the suggestions are:

1. Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do not define yourself solely by motherhood. Be a full person. Your child will benefit from that.

2. Do it together. Remember in primary school we learnt that a verb was a ‘doing’ word? Well, a father is as much a verb as a mother.

3. Teach her that ‘gender roles’ is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should do or not do something “because you are a girl.”
‘Because you are a girl’ is never a reason for anything. Ever.
The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina. Cooking is learned. Cooking – domestic work in general – is a life skill that both men and women should ideally have. It is also a skill that can elude both men and women.

4. Beware the danger of what I call Feminism Lite. It is the idea of conditional female equality. Reject this entirely. It is a hollow, appeasing, and bankrupt idea. Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not. You either believe in the full equality of women, or you do not.

5. Teach Chizalum to read. Teach her to love books. The best way is by casual example. If she sees you reading, she will understand that reading is valuable. If she were not to go to school, and merely just read books, she would arguably become more knowledgeable than a conventionally educated child. Books will help her understand and question the world, help her express herself, and help her in whatever she wants to become – a chef, a scientist, a singer all benefit from the skills that reading brings. I do not mean school books. I mean books that have nothing to do with school, autobiographies and novels and histories. If all else fails, pay her to read. Reward her.


Happy new year to you all

Thanks dejt4u and happy new year to you too. Wish you a fulfilling year ahead.

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thank you sir. prize received

You are welcome.

What you give is what you get.